Saturday, February 4, 2012

The Woman in Black

My beloved and I are real movie buffs. It's our favorite activity on date night (Fridays) and we see a pretty broad range of movies.

Yesterday we took in the new release "The Woman in Black" starring Daniel Radcliffe of Harry Potter fame. I wasn't really excited about going to see a spooky movie but I did want to see Daniel in a new role and I must say he was very good in this one. There wasn't a lot of dialogue but he was able to convey a lot with his expression.

Anyway, the movie was very spooky and they managed to make me jump a lot even though I pretty much knew what was coming much of the time. I loved that the ending wasn't what I expected though and what was so beautifully portrayed and the main point I want to talk about here is the way non-forgiveness affects us.

The whole spooky story was about the effects of non-forgiveness and even though we generally don't experience it such a dramatic way the point is still made that non-forgiveness binds us to the past and it blinds us to what is. There is no peace in non-forgiveness (non-acceptance) there is only the restless desire for revenge in one form or another. Revenge can look pretty passive in some of its forms (ie taking on the victim stance)  or it can be aggressive in doing whatever it takes to make others unhappy too. The outer form doesn't really matter, the real suffering inherent in non-forgiveness is within the one who does not forgive/accept. They are doomed to relive the experience they cannot accept over and over and over without surcease, even though they may think they want to be happy on a conscious level.

This reliving of the past is usually happening so deep in the unconscious that you may not even realize it's happening. If you are constantly reliving experiences that are not in alignment with peace and flow chances are there's something you have not yet fully accepted and made peace with. It's amazing what can happen when you finally come to terms with the past with compassion and understanding.

Remember, you are not your story.

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